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When you think about self-care, what comes to mind? Maybe a bubble bath, a hair appointment, or finally getting your nails done. Those things can absolutely be part of caring for yourself. You should enjoy feeling good in your skin. But self-care also includes the decisions you make about your time, your relationships, your surroundings, and your future.

Sometimes it means saying no, having a difficult conversation, or booking the appointment you keep putting off. Other times, it means asking for help because you’re tired of trying to manage everything alone. As one of the 7 daily practices, self-care is an invitation to notice your own needs and do something about them. Here are a few ways to make room for that in everyday life.

Do One Thing for Yourself Before You Pour Into Others

Before you start tending to your family, answering messages, or working for someone else, do at least one thing for yourself. It can be small enough to fit into the morning you actually have. Write a few lines in your journal, spend a few minutes in prayer, read a page of something meaningful, or sit with your coffee before opening your inbox.

For some women, that first act of care is their skincare routine or getting dressed in something they feel good wearing. That counts, too. The point is to give yourself a place in your own morning before everyone else’s needs start directing it.

If your mornings begin with a child calling for you, you may need to meet an immediate need first. Come back to yourself at the first available moment. This doesn’t require getting up an hour earlier and sacrificing sleep. Start by protecting a few minutes you can realistically use.

Ask Yourself What You Need Today

It’s easy to move through an entire day responding to what everyone else needs without checking in with yourself. Choose a moment to pause, perhaps while getting ready, during lunch, or before planning tomorrow, and ask: “What do I need today to feel cared for?”

You might need quiet, clean clothes, a proper break, or someone to listen. Maybe you need to stop avoiding a decision that’s been weighing on you. Once you identify the need, choose a response you can act on. “I need help” becomes “I’ll ask someone to handle dinner tonight.” “I need time alone” becomes “I’ll take fifteen minutes to myself after work.”

You can put a reminder on your phone or write the question in your planner until checking in becomes more familiar. Your answer will change from day to day, and your care can change with it.

Make Time for Your Everyday Care

When life gets busy, the care that helps you feel comfortable and put together can become rushed or disappear altogether. Give yourself enough time to brush your teeth, shower, care for your skin and hair, and put on fresh clothes. Consider what would make those things easier, whether that’s setting out your products, choosing clothes the night before, or simplifying a routine that has become too much to maintain.

And let’s be careful about how we talk about women who appear to have “let themselves go.” Often, what we’re seeing is someone who has been caring for everyone else with very little support. By the time she gets a moment, she’s exhausted. Sometimes money is tight, too, and appointments or personal purchases keep moving down the list.

If that sounds familiar, consider what would give you the time, energy, or resources to care for yourself again. That might mean sharing responsibilities, asking for childcare, or choosing a simple routine you can afford and keep up with.

Invest in the Woman You’re Becoming

Some forms of self-care give you an immediate lift. Others take time before you see what they’re doing for you. Studying for a certification, practicing a language, developing a skill, or working through your thoughts in a journal may not offer the instant satisfaction of a fresh hairstyle, but they can still be meaningful investments in your future self.

You have interests, abilities, and possibilities worth tending to. Spend a little time on something that matters to the woman you’re becoming. You could listen to an educational podcast while getting ready, practice a skill for ten minutes, or set aside an evening for a hobby you enjoy.

There’s overlap here with Personal Growth, another of the 7 daily practices. Giving yourself time to learn and explore is one way to care for your future. There’s also room to enjoy something simply because you love it, without turning it into another achievement.

Follow Through on the Care You’ve Been Putting Off

Is there an appointment you keep meaning to book? A concern you need to bring up? A conversation you’ve been avoiding because you know it will be uncomfortable? Self-care includes following through on those things, even when you don’t feel excited about doing them.

Depending on your needs, seeking support might mean contacting a therapist, personal trainer, healthcare professional, or specialist. You don’t have to figure everything out before reaching out. Your first step could be asking about availability, checking the cost, or finding out what services are available to you.

Boundaries belong here, too. Saying, “I can’t take that on,” asking for responsibilities to be shared, or addressing something hurtful can be an act of care. Before agreeing to another commitment, give yourself time to consider whether you have the capacity for it.

Build Support Into Your Life

If you’re continually depleted, look at how much you’re carrying and who is helping you carry it. A few minutes alone may feel good, but you may also need practical support: someone to share household responsibilities, help with the children, or show up when things are difficult.

Start with a specific request when you can. “Can you handle bedtime on Tuesday?” gives someone a clearer way to help than hoping they’ll notice you’re overwhelmed. Building relationships with people who offer mutual care also takes time, which is one reason the Connect practice matters.

Self-care can mean allowing yourself to receive. You deserve relationships where your needs have a place in the conversation, too.

Make Your Surroundings a Place of Care

Your home is part of your daily experience, and caring for it can be a form of environmental self-care. Think about what would make your space more comfortable and easier to live in: fresh bedding, less clutter around your chair, a dusted surface, or an open curtain that lets in daylight.

If you have the freedom and resources to make your home feel like a sanctuary, enjoy that process. Small seasonal touches can help you feel connected to your space. In fall, that might mean warm-colored kitchen towels or different pillow covers. You can work with color, texture, and the things you already own.

But maybe you share a home, live in temporary housing, or don’t currently have a room of your own. Start with whatever space you can influence. That could be a bedroom, a corner, a chair beside a window, or a small place to pray. A favorite blanket, a comforting photo, or keeping your belongings arranged in a way that works for you can make that spot feel more personal.

You can also consider practical improvements, such as keeping up with dusting, reducing unnecessary clutter, and maintaining any air or water filters you use. Choose what fits your circumstances and budget. Your current space deserves care while you work toward whatever comes next.

Choose One Act of Care and Give It a Time

You don’t need to turn every idea here into a daily assignment. Some care belongs in your everyday routine, while other needs call for an occasional appointment, conversation, or change in how responsibilities are shared. The daily practice is paying attention and responding.

For today, choose one thing you need and decide when you’ll tend to it. Maybe you’ll journal before checking messages tomorrow morning, make a phone call during lunch, or ask for help this evening. Give that action a place in your plans, and when tomorrow comes, check in again.

Get Support Making Yourself a Priority

If you know what you need but keep putting yourself last, let’s work on what’s getting in the way. Through LJ Lifestyle coaching, we can look at your responsibilities, identify where your needs keep getting pushed aside, and build practical routines and boundaries that make room for your health, interests, and goals. You’ll have support and accountability as you put those changes into practice.

Make caring for yourself something you follow through on. Explore the current LJ Lifestyle coaching offerings and choose the support that fits your next step.

LaToya
LJ Lifestyle

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